Discovering you’re pregnant can be an emotional and uncertain experience. If you’re unsure what to do next, one of the first questions you may ask yourself is how to share the news and discuss options with your partner.
This conversation can feel challenging, so preparing beforehand can help you feel more confident. At Sage Women’s Center, we understand how important clear and consistent communication is during this time, and we’re here to help.
How to Begin the Conversation
Timing and environment can significantly impact how the news is received. Consider when your partner can give you their undivided attention, such as over the weekend.
Start by expressing your feelings and providing any information you feel comfortable sharing, such as how far along you are. You don’t need to have all the answers right now; what matters most is being honest and saying what’s on your mind.
Saying things like, “I need to talk with you about something important,” or “There is something really important I need your support with. I just found out I’m pregnant.” can set a respectful and serious tone for the conversation.
Clarifying Your Partner’s Role
While your pregnancy decision is ultimately yours to make, it can be helpful to discuss how involved your partner would like to be in the process. Some people may want to attend appointments, offer emotional support, or help think through next steps. Others may need time to process the situation first.
Having this conversation early on can prevent misunderstanding. It can also support your relationship, as you both create mutual trust and work to communicate together.
Discussing Your Options Together
When discussing your next steps, it’s important to look at each pregnancy option—parenting, adoption, and abortion—carefully.
Parenting is a significant responsibility, but it can also offer a lot of joy. Discussing your and your partner’s financial situation, living environment, and what resources you’d need to be successful can help you decide whether this option is right for you.
Adoption is an option if you want to continue the pregnancy but don’t wish to parent. There are three different types of adoption: open (where you have contact with the family and child), closed (where no identifying information is shared), and semi-open (involving limited contact through a third party).
Discussing this option will help you learn where you and your partner stand and what communication preferences you’d have if you select this option.
Abortion is an option that ends the pregnancy. You and your partner will want to discuss the potential risks, side effects, and emotional impacts. Receiving an ultrasound is also vital to the decision-making process, so you can confirm critical pregnancy details and make an informed decision.
At Sage Women’s Center, we offer evidence-based options education, a limited obstetric ultrasound if you qualify, and more. Your partner is welcome to join you, and you’ll never be pressured into a decision.
We’re Here For You Both
Navigating pregnancy decisions can be complicated, and it’s normal to feel overwhelmed. Your needs and well-being matter, whether your partner is fully supportive, unsure, or still processing.
If you’d like guidance on how to talk with your partner or need a safe space to explore your thoughts, Sage Women’s Center is here for you. We’ll provide evidence-based education and support as you consider your next steps.
Request a no-charge, private appointment today. We’re ready to help.
Sage Women’s Center does not provide or refer for abortions.
All abortion information sourced in this blog is based on evidence-based information at the time of writing.